Employee brings 5-year-old daughter to work, forcing coworker to confront her when daughter keeps disturbing their work: ‘I don't think I should be responsible for entertaining someone else's child’

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Melissa Knudson • Writer
Oct 11, 2026 11:15 AM EDT

Who doesn't remember going to the office with their parents?

When you deal with children's behaviour, you have to get creative, to say the least. Kids see the world in a different way. Where we see work and responsibility, they see playtime and imagination. Where we see awkward social interactions, they see new friendship opportunities. Because of that, when we deal with them, we must also learn to understand the world they live in, so we can guide them in the right direction in the best possible way. 

How do childcare and workplaces meet, you ask? Well, reality is that sometimes it is very hard to get proper childcare for your kids while you're off to work. We all have the same childhood memory of going to our parents' office. Sometimes in a "bring your kid to work" type of situation, or when they just didn't have anyone to look after us once we were done with the school day. In either case, we ended up at their workplace, trying to entertain ourselves with toys we brought from home, coloring books, or, in the best cases, a friendly coworker who was open to playing with us. These ended up being really appreciated childhood moments. 

That said, now we live on the other side of this coin. We are the employees who go to the office and meet our coworkers' kids. Sometimes, we want to be the friendly adult that plays with them, the one they'll remember forever. On other occasions, we want to be left alone. Unfortunately, work tends to pile up quickly at a job, and stress runs high. We wish we had more time to play, but that is simply not realistic anymore. 

In this story, a sales worker struggles to set limits for a coworker's daughter. She visits the office often and ends up preventing the sales worker from getting their work done. In addition to that, neither the manager nor the girl's mother have been helpful in the situation. The manager seems to want to avoid conflict altogether, and the mother finds it useful for her to get her own work done in peace. It is a tricky situation, because the sales worker doesn't want to come across as mean to the child, but really needs her to stop being distracting. 

Reality is that kids will sometimes have to come with a parent to their jobs. Childcare is not exactly cheap, and sometimes bringing them along is the best solution. However, they can definitely get you in trouble with coworkers if you're not correcting them properly. Who do you think should be the one to manage the situation here? The sales worker by being more strict, the mother, or the manager?

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    Coworkers arguing at the office. 

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  • My coworker's five-year-old daughter keeps trying to play with me while I'm working

    I like my coworker and her daughter, so I don't want this to sound like I have a problem with the child. She's sweet, but she spends a large part of the day coming over to my desk and asking me to draw with her, play pretend, or walk around the office looking for things. My desk is in the open sales area, so there's no door I can close.
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  • When I tell her I'm busy, the conversation doesn't end there. If she asks me to play hide-and-seek and I tell her I have work I need to finish, she suggests that we each hide. just once or that we play for two minutes. I usually repeat
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  • myself several times, but eventually I give in because I feel bad about disappointing her, and I worry that her mother or the branch manager will think I'm being cold.
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  • The manager knows what's happening, but he hasn't stepped in. My coworker is also his assistant, which makes the situation even more awkward. When I fall behind on
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  • my work, the manager tells me I need to be firmer and just say no, but my coworker rarely redirects her daughter away from me because she can focus on her work just fine while her daughter talks to me instead.
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  • Another supervisor sometimes takes her back to her mother, and she listens to him because she's a little afraid of him, but he isn't there every day. I know
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  • this is normal behavior for a child her age, but I don't think I should be responsible for entertaining someone else's child while also being held accountable when my work doesn't get done. I don't have children, so I need advice on how to set boundaries without making things tense at work.
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  • Zausted You need to tell your coworker (the child's mother) that her daughter's constant pushing you to play adversely affects your work and you will be saying no 100% of the time. Tell her she has to bring toys and activities to entertain her child because it's not your job.
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  • But I have to know: why does she bring her poor kid to work every day? That child needs. to learn to socialize with peers at this age, not how to hound and manipulate adults.
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  • Real_Firefighter3223 Great opportunity to tell the kid to go hide and you don't find her.
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  • Odd-End-1405 Your manager has told you to be firmer. Be firmer.
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  • My guess, he is afraid of stepping in due to some HR issue you may not be aware of that allows the kid to come into the office.
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  • Be the B if you have to. This is Momma's problem.
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  • Be firm...I said NO a little sharply. She may cry to mommy, but it will give more credence to your statement you are trying to get work done.
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  • smthomaspatel "Be firmer"? I doubt child care was in OPs job description. It's not their job to handle this situation. That falls on the mother who is bringing her child to work, and the manager who is allowing it.
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  • here_in_seattle If you ignore her and not engage with the child that will end her attention seeking quickly. Source: am a child care worker
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  • taewongun1895 This falls on the manager to be a leader. They need to protect the work environment as a place of business. The manager can't place the blame for unfinished work on the employee when they have a kid disrupting the workplace. OP needs to ask the manager to step up and do their job.
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  • KidenStormsoarer if your manager is allowing this behavior, and punishing you for it instead of telling the parent to deal with her kid, then redirect the kid to the boss. "I can't right now, but mr. manager loves hide and seek!" "that's a great drawing, you should go show mr. manager!"
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  • Powerful_Put_6977 Walk the child back to their parent and say that you cannot look after her child while you're at work.
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  • Best idea though is to practice saying this in the mirror so that you too can come across as firm but not leaving her any wiggle room. She is bringing her child to work because she has no childcare sorted. Unless you work in childcare, it's not your job to look after another employee's child during your working hours.
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  • So, stop negotiating with a 5 year old saying that you're busy and you can't play hide & seek, take the child back to their parent and say "I'm busy - I cannot and will not be able to look after your child while I'm at work" and turn around leaving the child with their parent and walk away.
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  • I'm shocked that your employer hasn't knocked this on its head at this stage - where is workplace health & safety here???
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